As of March 2025 new divorce and separation clients can find mediation assistance with our partner services.
If you are you planning to use government voucher and/or privately funded mediation you can contact Southeast Mediation or South East London Family Mediation Bureau. For Legal Aid funding please contact South East London Family Mediation Bureau. (Existing or returning clients please see below).
Divorce or Separation mediation – via our partner services
We are able to signpost you, for Divorce or Separation mediation, to our partner services’ highly experienced family mediators, who can help you to agree arrangements for your children, property and finance. After ten years offering mediation for divorce and separation, Calm Mediation no longer provides this service. Mediation puts you very much in control of making your own decisions. Compared with going to court, it is quick, effective and low in cost. Experienced Divorce & Separation mediators are available at:
- Southeast Mediation (private & government voucher funding) https://www.mediationsoutheast.
co.uk/ - South East London Family Mediation Bureau (private, legal aid & government voucher funding) https://www.selfmb.org.uk/
- or via the Family Mediation Council’s ‘Find a Mediator’ resource. https://www.familymediationcouncil.org.uk/find-local-mediator/
Why have you made this change?
Calm Mediation has been resolving conflict across London for nearly 40 years. We have an excellent track record for:
- providing consistently high quality mediation
- managing challenging financial scenarios
It is therefore exceptionally disappointing to reach the stage of closing our divorce and separation service.
Funding for low-income families to access divorce and separation mediation is under unprecedented pressure and, as a community-based charity, we put great effort into keeping this option accessible for the last ten years. However, with the Legal Aid payment for this service remaining unchanged since 2004 it is not possible to continue at present. If you think this situation should be improved, see https://www.mediation4all.co.uk/ We continue to offer our conflict resolution services and training in many other areas.
We offer support for Extended Families in conflict
Family members frequently have different opinions and may fall out with each other. Usually, these situations can be repaired relatively quickly but sometimes the families become stuck in dispute. This situation can be upsetting and stressful for all involved. We offer support to have a constructive conversation and to find a way forward that everyone feels will work.
If you are experiencing a family dispute situation and would like to know more, please complete an enquiry form here: Make an Enquiry.
We offer Inter-Generational mediation.
Across the generations there are sometimes differences in approach, expectations and values. Examples of situations which may escalate to conflict are: adult children living with older parents; changes in communication, (such as when a family member moves away), a clash of attitudes to behaviours (such as ‘good manners’ or ‘respect’). These difficulties may surface in the home, community or workplace. We offer a chance to ensure that each person can be heard and a new framework created for the future relationship.
If you are experiencing a difficult inter-generational situation, please get in touch through our enquiry form here: Make an Enquiry.
We offer Elder Mediation
Elder Mediation is based on a wellness model that promotes a person-centred approach for all participants; it is mindful of the older person(s) while respecting the rights of each person participating. Regardless of the numbers present, each person is unique with his or her own narrative, intrinsic value, strengths and weaknesses. Through the Elder Mediation lens, aging is viewed as part of a continuing process of development and change, rather than just a period of physical and cognitive decline
If you think you meet this criteria please complete an enquiry form here: Make an Enquiry.
tion services and training in many other areas.
Existing Separation and Divorce Clients: What will happen with my case?
We remain a fully functioning organisation and will enable you to complete your case, with the same mediator. We have simply stopped taking on new divorce/separation clients.
What if I am a returning Separation and Divorce client?
You will be able to request a booking with your previous mediator at one of these alternative services: Southeast Mediation https://www.mediationsoutheast.co.uk/ South East London Mediation Bureau (offering Legal Aid) https://www.selfmb.org.uk/
or via the Family Mediation Council’s ‘Find a Mediator’ resource. https://www.familymediationcouncil.org.uk/find-local-mediator/
What other Services do you offer?
All our other services are continuing as usual, (they don’t have same challenges as the Family Divorce/Separation sector). Please get in touch if you need assistance in these areas:
Neighbour or Community – issues with your neighbour or other local community members
Peer (schools) – options for student, parent and staff disputes (also in colleges/universities)
Workplace – colleagues or managers dealing with disputes (including grievances, etc)
Training – from conflict management skills sessions, to becoming an accredited mediator
Restorative Justice – for those affected by crime
